Tuesday, September 29, 2015

My Life as a "Mom"

I'm writing today's blog from Grit Coffee in Crozet, where I'm simultaneously career networking and babysitting my little brother and sister.

I don't mention Liam and Susie a lot, at least not enough considering what an important part of my life they are. For the past ten years (almost!) they have been lighting up my life with their smiles, adorable comments and little pencil drawings they send me.


Having a brother and sister so much younger than myself (Liam will be turning 10 at the end of October; Susie will be eight in April) has come with its own set of complications. I've babysat from the time I was fourteen, but the job is ongoing when two of the kids live at home with you. I have to monitor the music I listen to around them, check IMBD for parental warnings on the movies I watch with them (because ratings won't tell you everything you need to know), and I don't even allow them near the internet after an expletive popped up under the Doctor Who memes Liam was scrolling through online.

Yeah, I'm more than just a babysitter. Some days I feel more like their mom than an older sibling.



Part of it is the age difference, partly their adopted introduction to our family. Both came to us as babies, so my mom, dad, Colin and me are the only family they've ever known. My mom has always been a busy parent; between homeschooling and leading ministries through our church and community, she doesn't have as much time as she'd like to spend with Susie and Liam. Which meant I took on a lot of the responsibilities when I lived at home.

I was there when Liam fell out of his rocking chair at nine months and cut his chin, and was frantically trying to staunch the bleeding and hoping my baby brother wouldn't die while under my supervision. (Fortunately he survived.) I was there for the toddler fevers, temper tantrums and sleepy meltdowns, as well as their first times rolling over, riding bikes and watching Doctor Who (a decision I'm still proud of, despite hearing Whovian references every time we're together).



I guess it's because I was there for so many firsts that I can become really sad when I miss out on other big moments in their lives. Like Liam's first loose tooth. Susie's first day of school. When they call me to talk about discovering a turtle in the backyard or going to park after a school day I just wish I had been there.

I don't want to be there for just the big moments: I want to be there for all the moments. And I know that can't happen as much as I want it to.

So I live for these little moments like having one on either side of me in the coffee shop drawing pictures of cats and R2-D2 while I write. Because being their big sister, their second "mom," is the best feeling in the world.  


Friday, September 18, 2015

10 Picks for Fall Reading

This past summer was spent traveling to and from DC, with side trips to Richmond, Asheville and NYC. So busy, in fact, that I never got to my summer reading list. Therefore, I've switched my reading period to fall. Here are my ten favorite picks - some that I've read multiple times, some I can't wait to pick up for the first read - for fall (or any season) reading:

The Screwtape Letters

 The Screwtape Letters:
Currently the book on my nightstand. Screwtape combines Lewis' wit with a glimpse into the mind of the Enemy.

Read if: you want a theological read or a witty novel on demons' plans to corrupt the human race

Wonderful Tonight

wonderful tonight: george harrison, eric clapton, and me by pattie boyd- Want to find this book, hubby is obsessed with George Harrison!!:

This autobiography is so thrilling that I go back and read it at least twice a year. Told by the former wife of George Harrison and Eric Clapton, this book is a fabulous view into the life of one of the 60's greatest models.

Read if: you love fashion, the Beatles or a love story without the happily-ever-after.

American Gods

Neil Gaiman's American Gods..one of the scariest and most fascinating books I've read ever:

Any of Gaiman's work is exceptional and American Gods is perhaps his greatest. The old gods brought to America by immigrants go to war against the new gods of media and technology.

Read if: your interests include mythology and fantasical cross-country trips. Immediately follow with the next Gaiman that catches your eye.

The World of Wanderlust

HOME-WORLD OF WANDERLUST:

Brooke Saward gave up her career in 2012 and began to travel the world. Her autobiography explores the spark that incited her career path and where it's taken her.

Read if: you want to travel the world, or bring as an accompaniment on your jet trip.

Wild

Reading this one now...Wild by Cheryl Strayed | 16 Books To Read Before They Hit Theaters This Year:

Another travel memoir, this one with darker strings to the past.

Read if: you're considering a hundred-plus mile hike along the West Coast, or if you're looking to make some big life changes.

The Secret History of Fantasy



Unquestionably the best book I ever bought for undergrad courses, this collection contains multi-faceted stories by Stephan King, Ursula Le Guin and Neil Gaiman. "Sleight of Hand," the editor's contribution, is the saddest, most beautiful short fantasy I've ever read.

Read if: you're just branching into fantasy or are trying to find a favorite author within the genre.

The Picture of Dorian Gray



A horror story with witty comebacks. Wilde's only novel is well before its time with a hero who trades his soul to remain young forever.

Read if: you want to experience a thrill beyond vampires and things that go bump in the night. Just...don't get your portrait done, ever.

The Devil in the White City

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The chilling true story of the architect who designed the Chicago World's Fair in 1893 and serial killer Dr. H. H. Holmes who used the attraction of the World's Fair to draw victims into his Murder Castle.

Read if: you're a fan of history and/or Jack the Ripper tales and find the most exciting stories the ones that actually happened. Also, be ready for the Martin Scorsese adaption coming out soon with Leonardo diCaprio as Dr. Holmes!

Bridget Jones' Diary



The best of modern takes on Pride and Prejudice, this journal-style book is widely funny and relatable to anyone who's ever failed their New Year's goals.

Read if: you need a reminder that you could have done so much worse in life. Or just need a laugh every line read.

The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy

If you loved Doctor Who, you should read Douglas Adams’ The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy.:

Introduced to me by my wonderful boyfriend, this sci-fi spoof is the funniest thing I've ever read. When you start noticing all the Hitchhiker's references in pop culture (and real life) you can't forget them.

Read if: just read it. You won't regret it, I promise.

What's on your fall reading list? Comment below!

Friday, September 11, 2015

Fashion and Freelancing

Hello readers!

Sorry for my lack of presence online - it's been a busy few days!

My internship with Deux Hommes kicked in yesterday morning with one of NYFW's first shows; the article should be up soon!

As I'm waiting for the pictures for my next show to come through, I'm scrolling through Pinterest making up my long list of possible Fall outfits:



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Oversized sweaters and skinny jeans...

25 Great New Outfits For Your Winter Lookbook - Style Estate:

Autumn hues in feminine styles (of course, the top knot)...

oversized sweater + contrast tank underneath + skinny jeans + boots/perfect fall casual look:

Patterned leggings and leather...

I've always been addicted to chic autumn style, but being a fashion writer makes me want to really step up my game. Sure, I can be writing articles in my pajamas and no one will know, but it feels like going against the system.

So this autumn I'm making a firm resolution to dress the part of a fashionist. Because in writing, if the inspiration doesn't come from within yourself, where are you?

Now I'm not one of those girls who takes the full-mirror selfie, so I used the help of Pinterest (of course) for a rundown of my favorite fall trends:

Skater-skirts and boots

black sweater, mini blue skirt and knee long boots

Girly-girl meets edgy.

Re-worked summer dresses

Love this chunky sweater for chilly spring / summer evenings #perfect find more women fashion ideas on www.misspool.com

Just because it's chilly doesn't mean you have to put your favorite sundresses away.

Mini-skirts and leggings

adorable, very fall-y:

Tacky alone, chic together. Especially with leather boots.

Flannel 

autumn outfits womens fashion clothes style apparel clothing closet ideas warm and cozy brown handbag shirts boots:

It pulls this whole outfit together and gives off a bit of Amy Pond vibe.

Scarves

Zippered Epaulet Coat

Especially when it provides a pop of color in a neutral ensemble.

Bring on nippy weather and Pumpkin Spice lattes!

Cheers,
Victoria

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

The Devil Wears Gongini

In my flurry of job applications and writing samples, I added in a few applications to magazine internships. The benefits being a) many companies want to hire a new recruit to their company with at least two- three years experience (more than I have unless you count my pre-college writing which, trust me, no one wants to read that) and b) with minimal expenses and lots of time for writing on my hands, now is a great time to gain that necessary experience!

So, as long as I'm applying to magazines, I'm not just aiming for small publications. And that's how I ended up applying to magazines like ELLE, Rolling Stone and Deux Hommes. (If you're going to aim for your dreams, aim high. Even if you fall short, you're going to land something great.) My "something great" is more along the lines of Lucky Magazine, my favorite fashion consultant throughout high school and college, which in my mind is still a dream job.

So, imagine my surprise when I checked my inbox an hour later and found a response from the managing editor of Deux Hommes (!!!!)!

"Thank you for your interest in Deux Hommes! To better gauge your fashion writing abilities, I would like to have you complete a trial article on the designer below."

(I may have screamed for three minutes or so whilst hugging my extremely confused kitten.)

The designer of choice was Barbara I Gongini, who I was unfamiliar with, but immediately looked up to get a view of her Spring/Summer 2016 collection.


Oh...


"Ready to Wear" where??


This is not Lucky Mag...

I felt like Andy, the Anne Hathaway character in the Devil Wears Prada, when she gets a lecture in how fashion influences everything. Except I actually recognize the difference between the two blue belts... This Gongini was way out of my fashion knowledge.

But if this is fashion, I have to know how to write about it. So I tackled this first assignment of Halloween Goth meets Runway.

The first couple attempts were hard. How can you construe this look as "Ready to Wear"? These designs resemble more of something you'd see at the VMA's, not hanging in a closet. I spent two hours working on the project and got three sentences in. (Beginning of coffee/tea overdose.)

A few hours and countless cups of caffeine later, I hit a breakthrough. Well, really it was more of how to see this from Miranda Priestly (aka Gongini's) POV. 

Fashion is art first and foremost. Designers draw inspiration from a wide range of different elements; in Gongini's case, from the Nordic landscape of Denmark where she studied design. Thus, these inspirations may seem at least foreign to the viewer unfamiliar with the designer's culture and background. The other big thing was I have to convey the designer's intentions to the audience. Which means I had to get inside the mind of Barbara I Gongini and write about her fashions the way Miranda would describe the process of how the color cerulean made it into Andy's sweater.

First, I asked myself a series of questions: How is this spring/summer fashion? Why neutrals? How can open weave be convincing as street fashion (because, let's be honest, someone will be rocking that kilt thing in a matter of months). 

If I was going to convince the managing editor (and my imaginary audience) to take my opinion seriously, I knew I had to believe in it myself. Looking critically at the designs, I found aspects that I could appreciate: flowing short trousers to combat the heat, striped patterns to include some light hues and a lot of gorgeous draping. Seriously, I fell in love with that flowy, cross-body tunic and pinned it on my "too expensive, but oh I'd love to own you" board. And as I kept writing, I actually did believe my own comments on the collection.

This exercise not only changed my viewpoints on high fashion, but also made me appreciate Anne Hathaway's character more. 



I always try to relate to the heroine, but in The Devil Wears Prada, Andy always seemed to me to be a major pushover. She didn't really care about her opportunity to work for Runway, which to me was a major WTF factor. We're talking Vogue equivalent here, girl, and you can't even put on a pair of Valentinos?? Plus, keeping your mouth shut around the head editor is common knowledge. Honestly, for the first twenty minutes of the movie I just want to cry watching Andy stumble over the simplest assignments.

Post-Stanley Tucci makeover Andy is much better ; she actually has the initiative to put 120% into her job and it's paying off. Meryl Streep gives her a nod of approval and even allows her to drop off the Book (although this leads to another "What the hell are you thinking, Andy?" moment). Despite that minor messup, Andy pulls through, contacts Simon Baker to get hold of the unpublished Harry Potter, and bam! keeps her job.

It's around here that I get into the grey area: the inevitable romantic storyline.  Let me say up front: I do not like Andy's boyfriend. At all. Maybe it's from knowing a similarly douchey Nate, or maybe it's just because the guy is selfish. He makes fun of her job, doesn't appreciate her efforts to better succeed in the fashion industry and makes stupid purchases like $3 per strawberry. (Alright, maybe he was exaggerating, but really.) The weight of the storyline leans on the big question: will Andy stick with her boyfriend or give him up for her career. Either way, she's going to either be portrayed as a heartless workaholic or a pushover.

I'm a hopeless romantic. But there's nothing romantic about sticking with someone who's going to undermine your goals and criticize you for trying to succeed. So when Andy doesn't end it with foodie-freak Nate I'm really upset. The way she handled the whole Paris trip wasn't the best either. It's not until she throws her phone in the fountain and flies back to New York that I can sympathize with her. 

I'm not saying that every person who enters the fashion industry goes on this roller coaster of trying to balance the mindset of a non-fashionist with that of a Prada executive. Having said that, being placed in this position, you have to be able to think outside of your own mindset and appreciate the efforts of the designer in order to succeed in the fashion world. 

Anyway, I'm excited for this prospect and can't wait to see to see where this opportunity leads!

Cheers,
Victoria